Category Archives: guilt

Saying No to Boys

In high school I became friends, almost accidentally, with a guy named Matt who was severely, passive-aggressively depressed. Having felt depressed myself, I tried my best to empathize with him and be his friend. It was a one-way relationship if … Continue reading

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On Codependency, Family Relationships, and Human Error

Over the past couple of years, I’ve heard my share of advice on how to deal with a significant other’s parents. As I’ve developed my relationship with Jake’s family, however, it’s becoming a laughable observation that none of that advice … Continue reading

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When Nobody Cares ‘Til You Cut Yourself, Part 6: Healthy Self-harm Alternatives

This has been a long series. I am gearing toward wrapping it up pretty soon, but first, one of the things I thought was extremely important to do was throw out some ideas of healthy replacements for self-harm. Let me … Continue reading

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When Nobody Cares ‘Til You Cut Yourself, Part 5: How to Help Self-harmers

In the last post, I seem to have listed every possible thing NOT to do or say to someone self-harming. So, to compensate, I’ve dedicated this post to being about what you CAN do to help self-harmers. The way helping … Continue reading

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When Nobody Cares ‘Til You Cut Yourself, Part 4: What NOT To Do to Self-harmers

Disclaimer: While this post may give the impression that there’s really nothing people can do to help self-harmers, that is definitely not the case, nor what I mean to say. Here is my post listing all of the things you … Continue reading

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