Category Archives: neglect

On Codependency, Family Relationships, and Human Error

Over the past couple of years, I’ve heard my share of advice on how to deal with a significant other’s parents. As I’ve developed my relationship with Jake’s family, however, it’s becoming a laughable observation that none of that advice … Continue reading

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The Meaning of Life

I have philosophized about the meaning of life for a long time. When I was younger I was sure it was about making sure everybody in the world heard the Good News so that Jesus would come back. Then, as … Continue reading

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When Nobody Cares ‘Til You Cut Yourself, Part 6: Healthy Self-harm Alternatives

This has been a long series. I am gearing toward wrapping it up pretty soon, but first, one of the things I thought was extremely important to do was throw out some ideas of healthy replacements for self-harm. Let me … Continue reading

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When Nobody Cares ‘Til You Cut Yourself, Part 5: How to Help Self-harmers

In the last post, I seem to have listed every possible thing NOT to do or say to someone self-harming. So, to compensate, I’ve dedicated this post to being about what you CAN do to help self-harmers. The way helping … Continue reading

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When Nobody Cares ‘Til You Cut Yourself, Part 4: What NOT To Do to Self-harmers

Disclaimer: While this post may give the impression that there’s really nothing people can do to help self-harmers, that is definitely not the case, nor what I mean to say. Here is my post listing all of the things you … Continue reading

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When Nobody Cares ‘Til You Cut Yourself, Part 3: 8 Reasons Why People Self-harm (Continued)

Trigger warning: graphic imagery, self-injury I cut twice. The first time was in November after a stressful day at work and a lecture from my mom that just barely tipped me over the edge. The second time was a relapse … Continue reading

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