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Saying No to Boys

In high school I became friends, almost accidentally, with a guy named Matt who was severely, passive-aggressively depressed. Having felt depressed myself, I tried my best to empathize with him and be his friend. It was a one-way relationship if … Continue reading

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On Codependency, Family Relationships, and Human Error

Over the past couple of years, I’ve heard my share of advice on how to deal with a significant other’s parents. As I’ve developed my relationship with Jake’s family, however, it’s becoming a laughable observation that none of that advice … Continue reading

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When Nobody Cares ‘Til You Cut Yourself, Part 6: Healthy Self-harm Alternatives

This has been a long series. I am gearing toward wrapping it up pretty soon, but first, one of the things I thought was extremely important to do was throw out some ideas of healthy replacements for self-harm. Let me … Continue reading

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When Nobody Cares ‘Til You Cut Yourself, Part 5: How to Help Self-harmers

In the last post, I seem to have listed every possible thing NOT to do or say to someone self-harming. So, to compensate, I’ve dedicated this post to being about what you CAN do to help self-harmers. The way helping … Continue reading

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When Nobody Cares ‘Til You Cut Yourself, Part 4: What NOT To Do to Self-harmers

Disclaimer: While this post may give the impression that there’s really nothing people can do to help self-harmers, that is definitely not the case, nor what I mean to say. Here is my post listing all of the things you … Continue reading

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When Nobody Cares ‘Til You Cut Yourself, Part 3: 8 Reasons Why People Self-harm (Continued)

Trigger warning: graphic imagery, self-injury I cut twice. The first time was in November after a stressful day at work and a lecture from my mom that just barely tipped me over the edge. The second time was a relapse … Continue reading

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When Nobody Cares ‘Til You Cut Yourself, Part 2: 8 Reasons Why People Self-harm

Trigger warnings: self-injury Rash decisions tend to happen when we’re not thinking things through. When we don’t allow ourselves the necessary seconds to ask ourselves if what we desire in the heat of the moment is the best thing for … Continue reading

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